ARE RUSSIAN WOMEN HAPPY ABROAD
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New!  "Hello friends,
My name is Olga and I live in Canada for almost 4 years with my Canadian husband and our daughter Natasha. That were hard 4 years but I'm not complaining.
Out of all my Canadian experience I can come up to only one advice: if you want to be personally happy and financially secure in North America you have to quit complaining and learn to adapt the the demands of the place you are in. By adapt I mean: be an optimist, change or upgrade your education if needed, the way you deal with people ( become less personal with strangers and more cheerful in general) and learn to predict financial "oopses" ( credit card are the worst invention of the past century)  When I came to Canada, I was unsuccessully trying to find a job as an English teacher(  My Russian degree) hopelesly believing that a school needs a teacher though this  teacher speaks English with  Russian accent...Two years pass away...
I did find a job at a local school as a teacher, just of a different language-French:)  All I had to do is come back to University and start learning a new language....The  demands for French teachers in Canada are enourmos! Once certified I found a job the next week! not kidding!
I also learned to work in html program and made my own website about Russian women which is more like a hobby for me www.russianbridetomarry.com  So cheer up my Russian friends and instead trying to adapt the situation towards you-adapt yourself towards the situation!
Good luck!"
Olga

«I married a man with two daughters and lots of debts (I found out about debts just before the wedding). It happened 3 years ago.
The hardest part was to get used to be in debt all the time and to get fluent in English. Now everything is pretty good. My husband and I are in love with each other and are able to deal with any difficulties. His patience and love helped us to become even closer to each other. He accepts my culture and traditions and we are able to find compromises. I only miss my parents and my sister, but I see my future in this country. In Russia I had to live in a dorm for 9 years. I had a good job, but it started to get worse there soon after I left. Here I had a problem with job. I had to start from the "bottom" as a nursing aid (I am an electronics engineer). But in half year I already was a clerk and in another half year I became a manager. I was able to prove that my education in Russia is not just a piece of paper. I'm happy that this country gives more opportunities and a more secure future. Now I'm staying at home with my little son Alexander. He brightens everything.
I have many Russian friends, although I don't get to see them as often as I want to. But if something bad will happen, I'm sure they'll support me.
My husband's family accepted me very well. And now even one of my brothers-in-law is thinking to find a wife abroad, because he sees our example.
I think I made the best choice. I'm happy here.»
Tatyana

" I really do like it here - wonderful family, interesting job, lots of opportunities... why would not I? When I was living in Russia I was making good money. I worked for US company, traveled abroad, had my own apartment, etc. When I went back this June after living in US for almost three years, I also saw that with my education and language skills I would be able to find a good job. The only thing, which I could not find in Russia, was the man I want to be with. I found my true love and my other half here, so for me it was just my destiny. I also have an attitude that I don't expect anybody else to make me happy. Of course, I do have moments when I miss my family, miss my parents but not to extend to get depressed about it - I am too busy for it :) I understand that at some point of life I would have moved away from my parents anyways and yes, I moved to another country, but distance does not matter. You can be living with your parents in the same town and don't have understanding and love. I want to share something else with you as well. I was writing to another guy who is looking for a wife in FSU and he asks me a lot of questions about adjusting to life in USA and here is what I wrote him: "The more we live together and closer we get, more I understand that all the cultural differences people talk about are not the biggest issue. It's all about two people - being in love and being compatible, able to learn and being flexible. Everything else is secondary. But, it's just my opinion. Most of the problems I see here with other couples - it's just two different people living under one roof (I am sure you can see it in American couples as well) - she is a party girl, he likes to spend time at home; she is independent and entrepreneurial, he is control-freak and so on. I don't think in some of the cases relationship would work out just because of this." And in many cases it depends on how willing the girl is to learn language, overcome any "self-esteem" problems and start driving, looking for job, being active in her own life. Because, no matter how much someone try to make HER happy, only she knows what true happiness means for her - for someone it might be enough to sit at home and cook dinners, somebody else needs to achieve something professionally, socially, etc."
Elena, Seattle

"Dear Natasha!
I must say that I had quite a smooth transition when I moved to the US. My husband was born in England and also immigrated to the US 8 years before I did, so he knew what I was going through. When I came here I left behind all my family and friends, my university where I was working on my degree in English. But I didn't feel lonely because I had a great guy by me all the time. Of course I felt home sick, so we went back to see my family as soon as we could. I made a lot of American girl-friends here, I know that it's not the same kind of friendship, but it's still a very good friendship. We go out to lunch and chat about kids, love, married life-the usual things. I accomplished a lot of things here: I got my degree and have a nice job as Russian-English translator, I became a very good driver after 6 years of practice, and most of all, I have my very loving husband of 7 years and now 2 little additions to our family, our 2 daughters, born in 96 and 99. I guess, determination got me where I am today. And love, definitely!"
Lena

"I came to the U.S. from Riga/Russia, because I married an American. My husband is of Latvian descent, who was born in Michigan. In our family we mostly speak Latvinian, so my English is not progressing too much! We live in a small town, and, of course, it is very difficult for me to get used (after living in Riga). I have been in the U.S. almost a year but still cannot get accustomed to this new life. I experience the same problems as other women, which I have read at Natasha's site: lack of communication, loneliness without my mother, sister and friends who live in Riga. I also miss my city a lot. Sometimes I want to go back. I had a wonderful job in Riga - an artist at the animation studio. I had a very busy and eventful life. But I love my husband very much and it keeps me here, in America. When I found your site and read what you and other women think regarding this subject, I came down a little. May be it is true: time and patience will work things out and everything will be fine..."
Marina

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