Dear Natasha,
I apologize if you do not want to receive email and will only post on the Internet. I just need to get your opinion about problem I'm having.

I have spent much money on contact information for RW, addresses and cannot get continuing responses. I was talking to 26-year-old girl from St. Petersburg, who was TV reporter but have not heard from her after the first response two weeks ago.

I have no problem meeting the young RW 18-23 years old. They contact me because I had an ad/profile for RW posted on the Internet. (I have now removed the ad.) My problem I think is my looks. I look too young for my age. I know why is that problem because I cannot get 25-30 RW to continue corresponding. I'm very polite, respectful, and giving of complements. I have good life, like sailing, mountain biking, roller-blading etc...

It starts to hurt when the girls that are more in my age do not keep responding. My friend met nice Ukraine girl and he’s seen my letters and they are fine.

I have attached my picture that I use. I have also sent pictures of me sailing and mountain bicycling to the girls. Maybe I should get picture in suit to make me look more mature?

I am wondering about the difference between a “big city girl” or a woman from a small town. May be I should look only for women from the small towns? Maybe Russian women think something bad about me by my looks? I'm 36 year old American Norwegian born and raised in California. I tell the girls that my father is Norwegian. Is there anything bad about Norwegian men?

Again, I apologize if you do not want this email and I will not bother you again.

Respectfully,
Brian

Hello Brian,

Thank you for your email. You are right, and I usually don’t advice people who are not the members of my club “Ask Natasha”. I put a lot of efforts in my website, which I created especially for Russian women living abroad. Many of them have a lot of difficulties while adjusting to a new life… I do my website for free in my spare time (in two languages!), that is why I think it is just fair that I ask something in return for my service Ask Natasha:

Anyway, I read your letter and though I won’t be able to really help you – it is a long process and it needs a real communication between us (analysis of correspondence, etc.) Read my rubric: Love in Russia, but I can still answer on some of your questions.

I saw your picture and you do look very nice! Be sure that with such appearance you would get plenty of attention from Russian girls (almost any girl!), provided you are there, in Russia. On the other hand, while corresponding with women looking for their partners on the Internet, your young, handsome appearance could scare them away. Don’t be frustrated because, the most girls who post their profiles just want to make sure that their pen pal has serious intentions, will marry them and bring abroad. Younger guys, especially handsome once, may seem them not serious enough. These women think that such a handsome guy would have a lot of opportunities with local women and would use Russian girl just to play around. That’s why older, average looking men are pretty attractive for these women… In Russia there is a big competition for men. Those men who are anywhere above average have plenty of choices and usually chose very beautiful women… So, this might be your case L.

I know it is frustrating, but with the right approach to your correspondence and communication, you may surely convince Russian woman that you are a sincere guy looking for devoted woman to build a good family with.

Brian, I would not worry if I were you. Don’t be upset if somebody stops writing to you. It just means that she is not right for you. Before traveling to Russia and making any commitment you should be very sure that the girl you are corresponding is really like you as a person for who you are. It does not matter where you go – to Moscow or a small town – the more time and efforts you will put in your search and correspondence the more possibilities that you will meet the one, who won’t consider you as a ticket to USA. Believe me, there are many nice, intelligent girls even in Moscow (all my friends are beautiful intelligent women) – the question is to chose the right for you.

So, don’t worry – just work on your search and correspondence! Correspond with many women from the beginning and be selective and insightful. Don’t fall for anyone until you are very confident. And if you need to use my help, try Ask Natasha service. (I have trial session if you don’t want to become a Member) Become a member
Sincerely Yours,
Natasha

Dear Natasha,
Thank you so much!
You don't know what your email and opinion means to me. I needed to hear from someone like you…
Thanks again,
Brian

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