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NATASHA'S FAQ
In
attempt to provide you with true and unbiased information regarding
Russia and its women, I researched the Internet trying to
understand the roots of "Expectation trap", and its
devastating effect, which often results in the failure of
relationships and causes further problems for the parties involved.
NATASHA'S
FAQ WILL ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS AND PRESENT SOME OF THE DELUSIONS
EXISTING ON THE INTERNET
QUESTION
(Q): How is the current situation in Russia affecting Russian
girls?
OPINION FROM THE
INTERNET (IO):
"Financial crisis in Russia is creating an increased desire for Russian Ladies
to find stability in the arms of a loving man. These women are not "gold
diggers". They simply want a decent man who will care for them and treat them
with respect and honesty..."
NATASHA COMMENTS (NC):
Thought the desire to meet a nice and honest person who
take care and treat a woman with respect is natural for most of the women
anywhere in the world, it seems groundless to generalize the motivation of all
Russians. The new economy and "Perestroyka" (the process of changes in the
former Soviet Union) has immensely affected life for all Russians and,
particularly, the women. It is not uncommon to find educated ladies working full
time jobs for wages which are ten times less then anywhere in the United States
or Europe. Still the reality of living in contemporary Russia should not be the
ONLY reason for your Russian friend to make her choice. Please, keep in mind,
that while there are lots of women looking for love and sincere relationships
abroad, there is growing number of those who are trying to use their partners
for material purposes
Q. I don't make a lot of money, is that a
problem?
IO.
"The average Russian person makes less then
$200 per month. People usually live in apartments, most of them small and
without modern conveniences we take for granted; year round hot water, kitchen
appliances, cable television, an automobile, etc. If you
make only $800 a month you will still be making four times more then average
Russian worker."
NC.
Although, most of Russians who work for budget organizations usually get from
$50 to $150 a month, it is impossible to make any analogues with wage standards
anywhere abroad. There are number of factors which make such comparison untrue.
The most important is a different monetary system. In Russia people get paid in
rubbles, prices on most of the products and services are also established in
rubbles as well. (Current exchange rate is about 28 rubbles for 1 USD. For your
reference, a loaf of bread cost in Russia anywhere from 1 to 3 rubbles). In big
cities the exceptions are those people who are employed by foreign companies.
Such employees make anywhere from $200 to $2000 a month (after taxes!). It is
obvious, that the cost of living is also much higher there. Another major factor
is an absolutely different cost for housing (significantly less then anywhere
abroad: most Russians got their apartments for free and, basically, pay a little
fee and the cost of utilities.) Many other services
QUESTION (Q): Russian women are beautiful, but I am
average looking. Will they want to meet me?
(IO): "Russian women, unlike other women
around the world, many of whom have become materialistic and vain, look for
inner qualities. They want commitment, loyalty, and love. Looks are not
important to Russian women."
NATASHA COMMENTS (NC):
It is true that
many Russian women care a lot about the inner qualities of their partners. By
nature, Russians are open and sincere people. Though your appearance may not be
a major issue in your relationships with a woman from Russia, in order to have a
healthy family life, this woman should be attracted to you physically as well.
Having interviewed people involved in correspondence with Russian girls, I found
out that some women were eager to express their love and desire to marry their
foreign pen pals without even seeing their pictures! I am sure that for serious
people looking for their soul mates abroad such attitude is
unacceptable
Q.Do I have to go to Russia to meet these
women?
IO. "If you do not want to travel to Russia we will help you
to obtain a K-1 Fiancee Visa..."
NC. Though your Russian friend may have
a choice to visit you in your country on travel and some other visas, in many
countries, including the U.S., a Visa K-1 (Fiancee Visa) may only be issued if
you have previously met with this woman and have intention to marry her. (Check
VISA INFO on my web site).
Q. Can I write to Russian
girls younger than I am?
IO. " Absolutely! Russian women often marry men 10, 20, even 30 years older
than they are. Age, and looks, are not important to Russian
women."
NC. When I first came across the affirmation quoted above,
I was going to suggest to these Matchmaker agencies to go even further and make
their credulous clients aware that "some Russian girls start writing from the
age six!:)"
On a serious side: the preferences of Russian women are not any
different from European or American females. Some like older guys some prefer
young. The question of marriage, though, deserves serious consideration. If a
poor economy in the former Soviet Union is the main reason why a nineteen year
old girl is ready to marry a foreigner in his late forties, you should be alert.
You may be surprised to find out that your young fiancée will prefer twenty year
old boy friends soon after you successfully coax her away from her own country.
So, if you want a woman you can trust and build a family with, make sure that
she loves you for who you are.
Q.
I have been hurt and used by women in the past. Can I trust Russian women,
especially a beautiful one?
IO . "Absolutely! These women are willing
to move thousands of miles away from their friends, family, and homeland for a
relationship! Would women from another parts of world make a sacrifice like this
for a relationships?"
NC .
For women living in prosperous countries with a
steady economy and high living standards, such a sacrifice may definitely mean
big feelings. On the contrary, for many women from the third world (and Russia
with its devastated economy not so far from this category) such a decision may
based on the understandable desire to escape from their poor country and
significantly improve their life. The question of trust depends solely on the
quality of relations you have built with your Russian friend.
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